So where did my sex drive go…
or maybe you’re asking where did my wife’s libido go?
First of all, it’s not all bad news…
The research shows that while the frequency of sex decreases into marriage, relationship satisfaction goes up.
Still, you probably would like to know how to increase your sexual desire and frequency of physical intimacy…right…
In this article, we’ll explain why sex decreases in marriage AND how to increase it!
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About the Author
Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapists with over 10,000 hours of clinical experience. Josh specializes in Marriage Counseling and Sex Therapy. You can schedule an appointment with Josh for online counseling.
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