You have taken the brave and painful step and sought out help to start addressing the infidelity in your marriage. You are experiencing the realities of this vulnerable work with your spouse, processing full disclosure of the infidelity, the inventory of its impact on you, and the steps needed to restore trust in your marriage. While sorting through the mountain of emotional, physical and spiritual debris of the events, how do you respond to your relatives and friends who want to know “how to help” you?