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Articles by Melissa Abello, MA, LPC, NICC

Melissa Abello is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Advanced Practice NICC Therapist at MyCounselor.Online. She holds a Master of Education in Counseling and is a trained Sex Therapist through the Institute of Sexual Wholeness (ISW). Melissa specializes in helping couples restore intimacy after betrayal and navigate complex sexual challenges. She is also trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Level 1 AEDP, equipping her to facilitate deep emotional healing alongside sexual restoration. With a compassionate, non-judgmental approach, Melissa helps clients integrate their sexuality with their faith, moving from shame to wholeness. View Melissa’s Full Clinical Profile & Schedule a Session

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When God Says To Care For Yourself by Melissa Abello

When God Says To Care For Yourself

I write this article because I have encountered many faithful, inspiring, powerful men and woman of the Lord who for some reason do not believe that caring for themselves matters to God. For years they have functioned under the belief that they were last on the list of people to care for because this what was righteous or godly.
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When The Wife Wants More Sex

Many women experience higher sex drives than their husbands. This article helps wives understand that it's normal and what they can do.
When Men Avoid Sex (Erectile Dysfunction) by Melissa Abello

When Men Avoid Sex (Erectile Dysfunction)

It is commonly joked about that when a woman is ready to have sex, the man is just around the corner waiting to pounce. The world we live in today jokes about this dynamic between men and women often.  Many men believe that it is their job, as a sexual being, to please a woman. And furthermore that, if they do not experience orgasm, they have failed.
When Sex Hurts: Dealing with Shame by Melissa Abello

When Sex Hurts: Dealing with Shame

I cannot tell you how many clients come into my office complaining about how painful sex is. They share with me how sex has caused burning, stinging, or sharp pain. These pains can be caused by a few different things.
What to Expect in your First Infidelity Counseling Session

What to Expect in your First Infidelity Counseling Session

Maybe you just discovered your spouse had an affair or maybe you have known for sometime time. It is also possible you are the one who was unfaithful and have just decided to disclose your infidelity.
High Female Sexual Desire and Personality Tests with Melissa Abello

High Female Sexual Desire and Personality Tests

Welcome to another insightful episode of #MyCounselorLIVE! Today, we are delighted to introduce Christian Therapist Melissa Abello, who will guide us through a captivating exploration of topics that touch upon the intricacies of human relationships and self-discovery.
When Sexual Pain Causes Emotional Pain by Melissa Abello

When Sexual Pain Causes Emotional Pain

You wait until marriage to have sex. Everything about sex seems so natural and easy about it from the outside looking in, so you assume things will go smoothly on the honeymoon. You have all this excitement about engaging with your spouse the first time but it hurts really bad.
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Affair Recovery – Broken Promises

Affairs cause so much pain. And so many questions: How do we fix this? Should we get a divorce? What’s the timeline for healing? Will I ever be able to trust my spouse again? Can I truly survive this infidelity? Is there hope for my marriage?
Pain During Sex, Shame, & Intimacy

Pain During Sex, Shame, & Intimacy

In this thought-provoking episode, Melissa Abello leads us through her poignant article, "When Sex Hurts: Shame." This conversation takes us into the realm of an important but seldom-discussed issue – the physical and emotional pain that can accompany intimate relationships.
When Teens & Tweens Out of Control by Melissa Abello

When Teens & Tweens Out of Control

There are lots of mistakes to be made parenting teens… But, it doesn’t have to be complete CHAOS! Establishing boundaries with your teen helps to maintain the relationship and helps them grow into healthy adults. So how do you do that? Glad you asked – that’s what this article is all about.
Grief

Why Suffering? If God is Good, Why Does He Allow Pain

No one has ever faced suffering and not asked this question. In this article, Melissa explores how to understand suffering in light of a good God and how to navigate it in your life
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Let’s Talk About Sex – Part I

The messages we receive about sex growing up really do impact how we think and feel about sex. In this article Melissa takes a look at “What does the Bible say about sex?” and how should we think about sex….and talk about sex!