Patricia says, “My husband went to heaven three years ago. We had sex 1-3 times a day. I want that again, but I’m not married.” Read more to find out what Josh Spurlock, Counselor & Sex Therapist, says about grieving the loss of your lover, navigating sexual desire as a widow, and how to lean on trusted friends in your life as you grieve.
When your face hurts from smiling as you think about your special day and your countdown gets smaller and smaller you start to notice something new come up inside of you… sadness. Wait what?? Sadness?? NO!! Why am I sad?! This “should” be the happiest day of my life? My wedding day! As fear starts to creep into your mind and you notice this new feeling emerge, you wonder: “Is this normal…?”
Most people are familiar with the popularized cycle of grief that includes: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance (Kubler-Ross, 2005).
We all have a hidden space in our lives, like a basement, where we store wounds we’d rather keep hidden. It might hold painful memories or feelings of guilt, shame, and regret. It’s a scary place, one we’d typically avoid sharing with others. However, I believe God didn’t intend for us to face this alone. He wants us to invite someone in to walk with us through the darkness.
Survivor. The most accurate term to describe the challenging recovery for those who have lost someone they love to suicide (Jackson, 2003).
What is your relationship with pain? That seems like a strange question. You might find yourself quickly responding with “I don’t like it.” After all, who wants to experience pain.
Watching someone you love grieve is an incredibly difficult space to find yourself in. I often hear things like “I just don’t know what to say” or “what can I even do to help them?” Hopefully in this article I can provide some insight into how to sit with your loved ones in their grief.
How does one even being to explain grief? It can often feel so deep and so large that no words seem to accurately depict the process or the experience of grief.
Nick has lost many friends in the past years due to them choosing to spend their time elsewhere. His small childhood church is also on a decline and few folks attend who are his age.
Sharon says, “We’ve been married for a year. Sex wasn’t perfect when it all started, but it was getting better. Four miscarriages later, and I can’t orgasm at all.”
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