It’s a marathon – NOT a sprint.
If you don’t take care of you – EVERYTHING gets harder.
If you are going to survive the affair, whether or not your marriage does, you are going to have to be super disciplined about taking care of yourself.
Taking care of yourself through the journey gives you the best shot at a positive outcome.
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Self Care: How to Survive an Affair
- Connect in some way with support from a local church.
- Binge eat, drink, shop
- Make major life decisions (divorce, change job, move)
- Tell family prior to talking to a professional
- Take responsibility for your spouse’s behavior or choices
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- Snyder, D. K., Baucom, D. H., & Gordon, K. C. (2007). Treating infidelity: An integrative approach to resolving trauma and promoting forgiveness. psychologist psychologist, 12. 
- Glass, S. P., & Wright, T. L. (1997). Reconstructing marriages after the trauma of infidelity. 
- Lebow, J. L., Chambers, A. L., Christensen, A., & Johnson, S. M. (2012). Research on the treatment of couple distress. Journal of Marital and Family therapy, 38(1), 145-168. 
- Gordon, K. C., Baucom, D. H., & Snyder, D. K. (2005). Treating couples recovering from infidelity: An integrative approach. Journal of clinical psychology, 61(11), 1393-1405. 
- Learning to Love Again After an Affair – The Gottman Institute
- AffairRecovery.com – First Steps Bootcamp
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