Frequency of Sex in Marriage? Is there an Age Limit? | #MyCounselorSays

Josh Spurlock


Paul asks: “How frequently should a Christian married couple have sex, and does age play a factor in it? How old is too old?”

Read more to find out what sex therapist Josh Spurlock has to say about sex in the marriage relationship.

About the Author

This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapists with over 10,000 hours of clinical experience. Josh specializes in Marriage Counseling and Sex Therapy. You can schedule an appointment with Josh for online counseling.

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Josh Spurlock on How Age Affects Sex Life in Marriage

Let’s answer the last question first, and say that God has designed us to be able to enjoy our sexuality across the entirety of our lifetime.

And so, there isn’t a point where we age out of being able to enjoy our sexual relationship with our spouse.

Our sexual experience changes and evolves over time. And so, it’s not the same at each stage in life, but we can still enjoy that closeness, that passionate sexual connection, that God has designed us for.

Josh Spurlock on How Common Married Couple Should Have Sex

How frequently we do so is something that each couple has to work out between each other. There isn’t a right or wrong answer as to how often we should, but it should be mutually fulfilling to you both. Our frequency of connection shouldn’t leave one of us longing for more connection and feeling disconnected from our spouse because we’re not connecting as frequently as we’d like to.

And so that’s a conversation that you and your wife should be able to talk through. If you run into difficulties doing so, one of the sex therapists on our team will be happy to help you.

Have that conversation and be able to figure out how you can connect in a way that’s mutually fulfilling for both of you.

Thanks for your question, Paul.


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