Frequency of Sex in Marriage: Is there an Age Limit?

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Posted: March 18, 2020

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Frequency of Sex in Marriage? by Josh Spurlock

Paul asks: “How frequently should a Christian married couple have sex, and does age play a factor in it? How old is too old?”

Read more to find out what sex therapist Josh Spurlock has to say about sex in the marriage relationship.


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Let’s answer the last question first, and say that God has designed us to be able to enjoy our sexuality across the entirety of our lifetime.

And so, there isn’t a point where we age out of being able to enjoy our sexual relationship with our spouse.

Our sexual experience changes and evolves over time. And so, it’s not the same at each stage in life, but we can still enjoy that closeness, that passionate sexual connection, that God has designed us for.


How frequently we do so is something that each couple has to work out between each other. There isn’t a right or wrong answer as to how often we should, but it should be mutually fulfilling to you both. Our frequency of connection shouldn’t leave one of us longing for more connection and feeling disconnected from our spouse because we’re not connecting as frequently as we’d like to.

And so that’s a conversation that you and your wife should be able to talk through. If you run into difficulties doing so, one of the sex therapists on our team will be happy to help you.

Have that conversation and be able to figure out how you can connect in a way that’s mutually fulfilling for both of you.

Thanks for your question, Paul. If you have a question that you want to be answered by one of our counselors, submit it here!

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This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

About the Author
Josh Spurlock
Josh Spurlock

Josh Spurlock MA, LPC, CST, has a BA in Biblical Languages and a Masters in Counseling. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), holding licenses in MissouriColorado, and Florida. He is also a Certified Sex Therapist (CST), Level 2 AEDP Therapist, and an Ordained Minister. He is an Advanced Practice Clinician, with over 10,000 hours of clinical experience. He specializes in Marriage Counseling, Sex Therapy, Family Counseling, and works with Executives, Pastors, Business Owners, and Ministry Leaders. Learn more about Josh Spurlock at

Josh is currently unable to take on any new clients.

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