Only a few orgasms in a decade of marriage…why? | #MyCounselorSays

Josh Spurlock


Charlotte asks: “We’ve been married for nearly 10 years and my husband has reached an orgasm during sex with me less than 10 times. What could be the cause?”

Read more to find out what sex therapist Josh Spurlock has to say about the different causes of delayed ejaculation.

About the Author

This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapists with over 10,000 hours of clinical experience. Josh specializes in Marriage Counseling and Sex Therapy. You can schedule an appointment with Josh for online counseling.

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Josh Spurlock on the Causes for Delayed Ejaculation and Orgasm

Delayed ejaculation can be caused by a number of different factors. Sometimes it’s medical, sometimes it’s a medication conflict, sometimes there’s some emotional or psychological inhibitions that can get in the way.

So, there’s actually a lot of different questions that would need to be asked and troubleshooted in order to understand the origin or the cause of your husband’s delayed ejaculation.

A Sex Therapist Can Help Troubleshoot the Cause of Delayed Ejaculation

Those would be the categories of things that it could fall into. They are also what we would troubleshoot as sex therapists, in trying to understand what’s happening in your case and how to be helpful for you.

Thanks for the question, Charlotte.


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