Only a Few Orgasms in a Decade of Marriage, Why? 

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Posted: July 14, 2020

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Charlotte asks: “We’ve been married for nearly 10 years and my husband has reached an orgasm during sex with me less than 10 times. What could be the cause?”

Read more to find out what sex therapist Josh Spurlock has to say about the different causes of delayed ejaculation.

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JOSH SPURLOCK ON THE CAUSES FOR DELAYED EJACULATION AND ORGASM

Delayed ejaculation can be caused by a number of different factors. Sometimes it’s medical, sometimes it’s a medication conflict, sometimes there’s some emotional or psychological inhibitions that can get in the way.

So, there’s actually a lot of different questions that would need to be asked and troubleshooted in order to understand the origin or the cause of your husband’s delayed ejaculation.

A SEX THERAPIST CAN HELP TROUBLESHOOT THE CAUSE OF DELAYED EJACULATION

Those would be the categories of things that it could fall into. They are also what we would troubleshoot as sex therapists, in trying to understand what’s happening in your case and how to be helpful for you.

Thanks for the question, Charlotte. If you have a question that you want to be answered by one of our counselors, submit it here!

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This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

About the Author
Josh Spurlock
Josh Spurlock

Josh Spurlock MA, LPC, CST, has a BA in Biblical Languages and a Masters in Counseling. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), holding licenses in MissouriColorado, and Florida. He is also a Certified Sex Therapist (CST), Level 2 AEDP Therapist, and an Ordained Minister. He is an Advanced Practice Clinician, with over 10,000 hours of clinical experience. He specializes in Marriage Counseling, Sex Therapy, Family Counseling, and works with Executives, Pastors, Business Owners, and Ministry Leaders. Learn more about Josh Spurlock at JoshSpurlock.com.

Josh is currently unable to take on any new clients.

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