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I Just Discovered My Spouses Affair – Now What?

Affair Recovery Counseling

MyCounselor.Online’s Marriage Therapists are trained in the best evidence-based counseling practices for infidelity recovery. We’ve helped thousands of couples fix their marriage after betrayal. We are highly experienced in walking both the betrayed and betraying spouse through the healing process.

Infidelity Counseling at MyCounselor

Being cheated on is one of the most gut wrenching, painful experiences that any human being can go through in life.
Whether it’s pornography, an emotional affair, a one night stand, or sexual addiction, the pain and devastation is unbearable. 
But it doesn’t have to be the last chapter in your story.

Affair Recovery Guide

There are few human experiences more gut-wrenching than discovering your spouse is cheating on you. It’s hard to even know where to begin picking up the pieces of your world or even what to do next. Nothing will make it easy and there is no perfect guide for every situation. We hope this 6 part series, the Affair Recovery Guide, will give you some direction. It is born out of thousands of hours walking this difficult road with people just like yourself.

The Authors

These articles were written by the team of licensed counselors at MyCounselor.Online and edited by Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CSTShaun Lotter, MA, LPC, and Melissa Abello, MA, LPC. Combined the team has over 50,000 hours of counseling experience. Our team is here to support you with affair recovery counseling, available online and in person.

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You can meet with a Licensed Christian Counselor online through video therapy, or in person at one of our offices around the country.

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I love the online aspect of this. I can be comfortable in my own home or wherever I am. Aliuwa is fantastic. I am a different person from when I started.

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Kansas City Office

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Kansas City, MO 64120

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Shaun Lotter saved our marriage. He is truly one of a kind, professional, caring and a great Christian counselor.

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My wife and I have used several different counselors over the years and Allison Pitts with MyCounselor Denver has helped us more than all the rest put together in a very short amount of time.

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4901 E Dry Creek Rd, Suite 170
Centennial, CO 80122

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Alyssa has been tremendous. She knows her Bible, is kind, but is no push over. She has come up with great exercises for my treatment.

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Denver / Centennial Office

4901 E Dry Creek Rd, Suite 170
Centennial, CO 80122

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Josh loves God, honors what God says in His word, and does excellently in his work. I greatly appreciate him and recommend his services.

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Online Affair Recovery Counseling

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Professional Counseling, Available Worldwide

Our video conferencing software has native applications on Apple, Android, Mac, and Windows devices. You can connect with your counselor online from your phone, computer, or tablet, from wherever you are!

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HIPAA Compliant Online Therapy

MyCounselor uses a HIPPA compliant tele-health video software to provide online counseling with end-to-end encryption using TLS 1.2, Advanced Encryption Standard (AES) 256-bit algorithm for maximum security.

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Evidence-Based Therapy


There is a growing body of research supporting the effectiveness of online counseling, and showing evidence that online therapy is as effective as in-person counseling.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are the counseling fees?

Fees range from $55 to $195 depending on the level of experience of your counselor. All first-time appointments will be charged a non-refundable one-time $35 assessment and setup fee at the time of scheduling.

Advanced Practice: $165-195/session
MCO Certified: $135/session
Resident Counselors: $110/session
Scholarship (1 free session followed by 5 scholarship sessions): $55/session.

Do you offer free counseling?

With the amount of training and experience, our therapists have MyCounselor.Online isn’t free, but it can be affordable. Don’t let cost prohibit you from getting help. There is an affordable road to healing.

We have 4 Fee Tiers to choose from, starting at $55/session. Payment plans are available as low as $50/week. You may qualify for a scholarship from your church or work. We also offer 1 free session of online counseling through our Strong Families Scholarship.

Are you in-network for insurance?

MyCounselor.Online is a Christian counseling center focused on providing the highest quality care possible. As such we are unwilling to enter into any arrangement that might pressure us to compromise quality to increase insurance company profits. Thus, at present, we are not a part of any private insurance in-network panels.

That being said, outpatient psychotherapy is a covered benefit under many insurance plans and we do have a number of clients who receive out-of-network benefits for our services. Some networks, recognizing our excellence in certain specialized areas, have agreed to reimburse our clients at in-network levels even though we are not on their in-network panels. This is solely at the discretion of your insurance provider.

Can you file my insurance?

Yes. We can submit a claim for reimbursement of service fees to your insurance on your behalf for a fee* or you may submit claims to your insurance company directly. We cannot accept consignment for insurance benefits and have no control over how much your policy will cover or how covered claims will be applied based on your deductible. You are responsible for paying fully for your services at the time of your appointment.

*In an effort to hold down costs associated with providing the most effective and helpful professional clinical services possible, MCO outsources our medical billing request to an independent medical biller. The $5 fee for this service is passed along to those requesting this service.

How soon can I get in?

Appointments are available Monday-Friday, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Also keep in mind that each counselor’s schedule is different, and availability may vary depending on how busy they are and whether they have any cancellations.

If you need to get in quick and have flexibility with which counselor you see, we may be able to schedule you with a therapist same-day if you contact us before 5 pm CT.

What’s your cancellation policy?

Cancellations must be made by 5pm CT the business day prior to your scheduled appointment by contacting reception (Monday appointments must be cancelled by 5pm CT the Friday before). You will be responsible for paying the full session fee if changes are made after that time.

Much like a doctor’s appointment or hotel reservation, this time was reserved by the counselor specifically for you. When changes are made beyond the cancellation window, you are still responsible for that reserved time since we can no longer offer it to other clients in need.
In the event of inclement weather or other circumstances that prevent you from making it to our office, your scheduled session time is available over the phone or by video. Online clients who experience an internet outage or other technical difficulties are encouraged to attend their session over the phone.
We apply the cancellation policy without favoritism and with uniformity to all clients to whom it applies.