In This article

• How is MyCounselor.Online Different?
• Do We Need A Sex Therapist?
• The First Four Sessions of Sex Therapy
• What Are You Waiting For?

The author/counselor Lacey Wallace of this article is no longer with MyCounselor; however, wanting to continue to share their expertise on the subject, we would like to cite, credit and thank Lacey Wallace for their contributions to our clients.

Coming to the painful realization that the sexual part of your marriage is not what you dreamed of or expected is devastating on its own, but not knowing what to do or who to go to for help leaves you feeling alone and broken. My desire is this article will relieve your aloneness and help with the confidence you need to reach out and schedule your first sex therapy session TODAY!

This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

What to Expect When You’re Expecting has been preparing parents since 1984. Its hundreds of pages are filled with information deemed crucial to know before the big day and the days to follow. What if there was a book like this for other scary/exciting times in our life? Like, what to expect when sex is a struggle and you need help??? This would be a great resource for so many couples experiencing the number of things that can cause difficulty in sexual intimacy.

Coming to the painful realization that the sexual part of your marriage is not what you dreamed of or expected is devastating on its own, but not knowing what to do or who to go to for help leaves you feeling alone and broken. My desire is this article will relieve your aloneness and help with the confidence you need to reach out and schedule your first sex therapy session TODAY!

How Is Sex Therapy at MyCounselor Online Different?

MyCounselor Online provides sex therapy that doesn’t require you to check your faith at the door. We understand that sex is designed by God and perverted by our sinful world. We will help untangle the lies, misunderstandings, and pain that get in the way of your individual sexuality, and sex in your marriage being all God desired for you!

I often hear clients share that they have put off reaching out for help, because they do not know if what they are experiencing is “bad enough” to justify therapy. I will often share with them an understanding of that dilemma. When my husband and I finally chose to reach out for help in our marriage it was because we had come to the conclusion that we wanted better. It wasn’t that we were knocking on divorce door, but we knew that we could do better! After clients start experiencing relief and seeing improvement in their marriages, I often hear different variations of disappointment expressed in waiting so long to get help.

Do We Need A Sex Therapist?

There are many different reasons couples reach out for help in the sexual part of their marriage. Lots of couples experience a discrepancy in one spouse’s level of desire compared to the other. I have seen an equal number of low desire husbands as I have wives, contrary to the stigma culture places on male/female sexuality. Painful sex is another reason why some couples reach out for help. Some will seek support from a doctor and find help while others find their concerns met with less than helpful suggestions. A trained sex therapist can help with a diagnosis and collaborate with you for any additional support you may need.

Difficulties in arousal can be another struggle for both husbands and wives. There can be many factors getting in the way of achieving orgasm or reaching orgasm too quickly.

Past sexual abuse or assault can be an emotionally painful reality that paralyze couples during times of intimacy. Maybe there has not been reconciliation after an affair or sexual addiction and additional support is needed to lean back into sexual intimacy.

Some couples have little understanding of sex prior to marriage and do not have any safe resources to talk through their struggles and ask questions.

The bottom line is if your sexual experience is not what you expected and you are not willing to just settle for “good enough” sex, myself or one of the sex therapists at MyCounselor Online can help!!

What To Expect In The First Four Sessions

The first session with your chosen therapist will be a time to get to know them and allow them the opportunity to meet you and hear your expressed concerns and goals for therapy. Before the end of the first session the therapist will email you a set of assessments to be completed before the next session. The four assessments include a physical and background assessments and experience and barrier assessments. The process of completing these assessments will help order your thoughts and inform of what will be important to discuss. The next two sessions will be individual sessions to process the content of the assessments. Upon returning as a couple for the fourth session the therapist will purpose a plan and help you process through what to expect if you choose to proceed.

What Are You Waiting For?

The struggle is real finding help for the sexual part of your marriage. MCO is unique with clinically educated, Christian therapists who understand God is the designer of sex and are not afraid to get in the trenches to help heal your hearts and reach your goals!