Strengthening Physical Intimacy

Christian Sex Therapists

You get weird looks when you tell people you are a Christian Sex Therapist…

They’re creepy…

At least that’s what I used to think about “sex therapists” when I was in Bible college.

That was before my internship in grad school with a Christian certified sex therapist.

Sitting in on her sessions I watched people, just like the ones I went to church with, struggling…alone…with difficulties in the sexual part of their life.

Some people:

  • Experienced so much pain when they tried to have intercourse they had never been able to consummate their marriage…
  • Had flashbacks from a rape or molestation that made sex very scary…
  • Lost their sex drive after having kids and were struggling to keep the passion alive in their marriage…
  • Felt unwanted same-sex attractions or gender confusion and didn’t know what to do about it…
  • Couldn’t achieve or maintain an erection after their prostate surgery and were afraid they’d never have a fulfilling sex life again…
  • Never had an orgasm…

* I really like Christine Woolgar’s “To the evanglical couple considering sex therapy” for a honest look at sex therapy from a clients view. It’s worth checking out.

Hearing their stories…my heart broke – I knew God wanted me to be a part of HIS solution, to bring healing into their life.

So I enrolled with the Institute for Sexual Wholeness (ISW), the worlds only Christian sex therapy training program, at Richmont Graduate University.

After a few years of study and supervision at the feet of pioneers in Christian sex therapy like Doug Rosenau, Mark Yarhouse, Michael Sytsma, and Cliff & Joyce Penner – I became certified with the American Board of Christian Sex Therapists (ABCST).

In the years since I have had the great privilege of helping many couples find healing in the physical intimacy part of their marriage – So they can enjoy sex as God intended.

I’ve also had the opportunity to lead a team of therapists that have a passion for doing the same.

If you’re having difficulties in the sexual part of your life or marriage, it would be our honor to help you sort through the struggle and put together a plan for reaching your goals.

We can meet with you in-person at one of our offices or from the convenience of your home through online counseling.

We look forward to serving you!

Cheering you on to all that God has for you, 

Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST

Orgasm

Discover the pleasure your body was made to experience. It is possible. Our sex therapist can teach you how.

Desire Conflicts

Tired of feeling rejected again and again? Learn how to resolve desire differences, for real, no-losers style.

Strengthen Intimacy

Marriage is supposed to be full of sexual passion and mutual fulfillment. Not yours? We can fix that.

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Don’t feel heard or understood? Avoid conflict like the plague for fear of a shouting match? Let’s learn to talk.

Common Concerns

Sex Therapy Topics

Desire Differences

Desire Differences

Feeling rejected sexually hurts. It can leave you feeling unloved, unwanted, guilty, and inadequate. Over time these feelings erode away at the affection in a relationship, eventually leaving it cold and distant.

In 80% of couples the husband is the higher desire spouse, the other 20% (1 in 5 couples) the wife desires sex more frequently. In about 100% of couples the desired frequency for sexual connection is different between spouses.

So how do you navigate desire differences in a way that feels good to both and doesn’t leave anyone feeling rejected? We can help with that.

Desire disorders —lack of sexual desire or interest in sex

  • Female Sexual Interest Disorder: Absent or reduced interest in sexual activity, thoughts, or fantasies. Reduced or no initiation of sex.
  • Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder: Reduced or absent sexual thoughts, fantasies, and desire for sexual activity.
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Sexual Satisfaction

Sexual Satisfaction

Most people don’t desire to do things they don’t enjoy. Thus, if you REALLY enjoy sex – you’ll want to do it often. If you don’t – you won’t.

God designed the human body to really enjoy sex – female bodies even more than male – so if you don’t REALLY enjoy sex, something is wrong.

The cause maybe something biological or a very normal reaction to one of a few common life experiences that can get in the way of sexual enjoyment. Or, you just might not know how to connect with and enjoy your body.

Anorgasmia, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, lack of arousal, and sexual naivety are just a few of the problems we commonly treat.

Whatever the case, our sex therapists know how to troubleshoot your sexual difficulties and form a plan to get you to a very rewarding sex life.

Arousal disorders —inability to become physically aroused or excited during sexual activity

  • Female Sexual Arousal Disorder: Absent or reduced sexual excitement or pleasure during most sexual activity. Lack of sexual interest or arousal in response to internal or external cues, such as a spouse’s attempts to initiate sexual activity.
  • Male Sexual Arousal Disorder: Difficulty achieving or maintaining physical arousals, such as erections (ED), or premature ejaculation (PE).

Orgasm disorders —delay or absence of orgasm (climax)

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Physical Pain

Physically Painful Sex

Sex shouldn’t be painful. Sure you might enjoy some playful roughness, but it shouldn’t actually hurt.

Healthy people don’t enjoy real pain, so if sex really hurts or is very uncomfortable – you’re not going to enjoy sex. So you’re not going to want to have sex with your spouse.

There’s a number of reason’s why sex might be uncomfortable or painful – we can help you troubleshoot what the issue is and give you practical solutions for fixing it.

Pain disorders — pain during intercourse (Dyspareunia)

  • Atrophic Vaginitis: vaginal atrophy due to low estrogen levels
  • Vestibulodynia: (formerly called The Vulvar Vestibulitis Syndrome) refers to pain which is limited specifically to the vulvar vestibule causing pain at the opening of the vagina
  •  Interstitial cystitis/painful bladder syndrome (IC/PBS): bladder pain, frequency, nocturia, and urinary urgency causing pain during sex
  • Vaginismus/Pelvic Floor Hypertonus: the chronic spasm of the muscles of the female pelvic floor
  •  Vulvar Dermatologic Conditions: dermatologic conditions which may affect the vulva and causing pain during sex
  • Endometriosis: the most common cause of chronic pelvic pain in women
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Lost Love

Lost Love

Lost that loving feeling? Sometimes the grind of ongoing conflict and unfulfilled needs in a relationship lead to a “falling out of love” that also means “I don’t want to have sex with you.”

Sex is something that two people madly in love with each other, all things being equal, want to share with each other. If our relationship has deteriorated to the point where we’re not even friends, being lovers is out of the question.

Sometimes the pathway to a passionate relationship starts with learning to love again.

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Sex Therapy Resources

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MyCounselor Online offers easy access to sex counselors who love Jesus, know the Bible, and who are clinically trained in sex therapy.

We share your values and can help you have an amazing, healthy, fun, passionate sex life.

You can connect with a Christian Sex Therapists today, online from anywhere or in-person at an office near you in DenverKansas City, Columbia, Branson, or Springfield, Missouri.

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Counseling / Sex Therapy Options

Could your sexual relationship use some help? You’ve found the right place. Our Christian marriage counselors and sex therapists are ready to work with you — in-person or from any device or location.

In-Person Counseling 

For couples who live in or near Kansas City, Columbia or Springfield, Missouri, we offer in-person marriage counseling at one of our convenient, local counseling offices.

MyDevice Counseling 

Get help for your marriage no matter where you live. Through MyDevice video counseling, our clinicians are ready to connect with you on the device of your choosing.

AccessPoint Counseling 

No sex therapy, affair recovery, or sexual addiction specialists in your area? Connect with one of our specialists through video conferencing technology at a nearby counseling office.

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