How Are You, Really?

How Are You, Really?

According to a National Alliance on Mental Illness study, about 1 in 5 adults experienced mental health difficulties and out of the 20% nearly 43% sought professional help. Seeking help may be difficult and can feel isolating.

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About the Author

This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

Jacob Wilhelm, MA, PLPC is a professional counselor specializing in Marriage Counseling, Family Therapy, and Anxiety & Depression in Men. You can schedule an appointment with Jacob for online counseling or in-person at our Columbia, Missouri counseling center.

How Are You, Really?

Recently, I found myself doing something that I have not done in a while, in fact I can count on the number of times I have done it on one hand: scroll through social media. I am not trying to take a stance on social media, but it is something I personally, rarely, utilize. As I was scrolling, I saw salutations for the Season, political posts, pictures of smiling people, and sayonara to 2020. We, dare I say, as a planet, want 2021 to be different. But through the salutations, smiling and sayonaras I could not help but think at times, “How are you? I mean, how are you really?”

Not a simple question that has been passed as a pleasantry, “How are you?”, but, “How are you really doing?” Experiencing the gravitas on the question ought not be felt only at the end of the year; consequentially, being with family (or not given the pandemic), and transitioning into a new year can allow us to feel the weight of the question differently. When we check in, maybe it’s time to seek help. Maybe you’re on the edge of considering seeking help, hopefully this article can offer a little encourage wading through the waves of uncertainty.

You Are Not Alone!

According to a National Alliance on Mental Illness study, about 1 in 5 adults experienced mental health difficulties and out of the 20% nearly 43% sought professional help. Seeking help may be difficulty and can feel isolating; it’s scary and we are here to help.

Let’s Check-In and Ask

  • When I’m with friends, family, coworkers do I feel understood? Do I feel different from them?

When you’re with people, what does that feel like; does it feel like “I’m in a crowded room but still alone”?

  • Do you feel alone, a sense of isolation, or find yourself withdrawing?

Even if we know we have people around us that care, sometimes we need a little extra support.

  • Are you experiencing consistent thoughts of self-doubt, negative thoughts or harmful thoughts?
  • Do you find yourself avoiding negative feelings? This could include having coping habits that go to in order to not feel something negative.

Let’s consider the possibilities of why we lean into certain thoughts and behaviors during times of discomfort.

  • Am I going through some type of transition?
  • Are you experiencing some level of loss? This could be a loss of time, relationships, jobs.
  • Do your relationships feel strained?
  • Have you noticed any changes in your mood, or even find yourself feeling overwhelmed, or hopeless?

This is not an exhaustive list, but allow this list to kick-off the “Checking-In”. 2020 has given us a myopic view of what life is supposed to feel like; lets step into 2021 with a vision of change for the better.

Here at MyCounselor.Online there is a myriad of therapists that have a heart to listen and a desire to care for and to care about you.

Check out the link to see who is here at MyCounselor.Online that would find it an honor and privilege to walk through life with you.

Resources

https://www.nami.org/mhstats

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-man-cave/201911/5-reasons-why-people-seek-therapy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/200804/fundamentals-therapy-1-who-goes

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-should-i-go-to-therapy-8-signs-its-time-to-see-a-therapist-0118197

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/reasons-to-go-to-therapy_n_58bf1299e4b0f0c1cf96dc32

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-reasons-to-see-a-therapist#3

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