The “good Christian” with a Porn and Sex Addiction Problem

Shaun Lotter, MA, LPC

Many Christian men struggle with pornography in secret.

Are you one of these men, or perhaps you suspect you are married to one.

Your church is full of men who struggle with pornography and masturbation.

Statistics tell us the issue is absolutely rampant, and perhaps one of the most critical issues facing today’s church.

Perhaps you can relate to Gabe’s story. 

In This Article

  1. Gabe: “The Good Boy & Porn

About the Author

This article is based on scientific evidence and clinical experience, written by a licensed professional and fact-checked by experts.

Shaun Lotter, MA, LPC is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 10,000 hours of clinical experience. Shaun specializes in marriage counseling, affair recovery, sex and porn addiction treatment. You can schedule an appointment with Shaun for online counseling or in-person at our Springfield, Missouri counseling center.

Your church is full of men who struggle with pornography and masturbation.

Statistics tell us the issue is absolutely rampant, and perhaps one of the most critical issues facing today’s church.  Perhaps you can relate with Gabe’s story. 

Gabe: “The Good Boy & Porn

Gabe  grew-up in a Christian home with both parents present.

The family went to church together, read the Bible, and prayed at meal times.

Mom and dad made sure he and his siblings were taken care of in a stable environment.  In fact, looking back, stability was a primary focus for the family.  Each person knew their role and worked diligently to fulfill it.  It played out in daily interactions like a well-choreographed dance.

Conflict was not something Gabe remembers, not because his family was perfect, but because it didn’t happen.  It was the kind of family most people would hope for, and that is what confuses Gabe.  For his part, Gabe was a friendly kid, a bit introverted and socially awkward at times, but well liked.

Starting in high school, he began looking at pornography and masturbating.  At first it was once in a while then becoming more frequent.  Each time he felt tremendous guilt and shame.  He would pray and seek God to help him let go of this behavior.

The path down to the alter at his church was well-worn, as Gabe brought his secret sin to God again and again.    There were was a significant, emotionally charged moment in youth group, where teens were asked to write down on paper the sins they had been struggling with, and then symbolically throw them into a fire barrel, where the flames consumed them.

Gabe did well for a time, but then, fell again, finding himself back doing what he despised.  He guarded the secret more closely than ever, feeling a bit trapped and jaded.  He wanted desperately to be free, but it hurt too much to let himself get his hopes up that change was possible.

Now, as a young man out on his own in the work world, he masturbates while looking at porn and can’t stop.  He wants deliverance, after all, he can’t get married and still be doing this, or maybe having a wife will make the problem go away.  It’s overwhelming and Gabe is losing hope things can change.

Are you Gabe?… God will help…help sometimes looks like a professional counselor.  MyCounselor is a Biblically Based, Clinically Proven Counseling Center specializing in helping men with pornography and sexual issues.  Contact us today to get started on your journey.  

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