Kashina Harris, MA, CIT, talks about learning how to reconnect with your spouse in an emotionally distant or lonely marriage.
- Masters in Counseling
- Counselor In Training (CIT)
Get To Know Kashina
In 2008, I graduated from Drury University with my Bachelor’s Degree in Elementary Education and I believe God has called me as a fellow teacher to walk with families to create a home environment that is thriving. A thriving home life starts with the core of who God has called us to be as spouses, children and followers of Christ. One of God’s greatest gifts of parenthood can also lead to some of the greatest struggles in life. The pressure is intense for parents in our society to make the right choices and pave the right path for our children, so much so that it can sometimes leave us feeling depressed, lonely, tired, anxious and like a failure. The unmet expectations can allow for darkness to take over where there should be light. The overflow of the darkness has the potential to impact our marriages, friendships, careers and our mental and physical health. As a teacher, my job was to focus on curriculum, but my heart couldn’t stop at just teaching academics, so I completed my Master’s in Counseling from Lindenwood University. I wanted to see a life change, but not with just the children, but also with their families and coworkers.
As a mother of four, a wife of nine years and seventeen years of volunteering in various areas of my church I have realized that people have difficult circumstances that stir in their hearts. These deep rooted concerns are like the presents that we wrap for special celebrations that start off beautiful, but due to circumstances they are not handled with care and become damaged. If we are all being honest we have a concern that leaves us feeling damaged, ugly and broken. Inside we are no longer the nicely wrapped present, but instead the present left in a minivan that hauls toddlers.
The party host eventually will open all the nicely wrapped presents including the ugly and mangled, only to reveal it has the same thing inside, a gift. I want to take practical counseling techniques and biblical knowledge to help each person sort through their packages in life, find the ugly, mangled and abandoned circumstances and reveal the true gift our God wants us to see. The good and the ugly are a part of our life and they both reveal something new. Let’s open these parts of your life up together and rewrap what needs to be made new.
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The Relationship Center [MyCounselor.Online] was perfect for our marriage at a very critical time. The crisis was handled and the issues that had to be addressed were brought to the forefront. Each issue was dealt with to resolution before working on the next one. The honest approach and no-nonsense no excuses accepted approach was right on. The skill of the staff was key to our success. The skills that we were given have made our marriage better than it has ever been. Our time with TRC [MyCounselor.Online] not only saved our marriage but made it amazing.
My husband and I have been going to TRC [MyCounselor.Online] for about 6 months and have gained valuable resources and tools to help our marriage. Rachelle is a great person and very knowledgeable. I would recommend TRC [MyCounselor.Online] and Rachelle to others.
Our marriage was so horrible we thought Josh Spurlock would surely give us the green light that there was no hope and encourage us to go our separate ways. At least that’s what a previous counselor in town had told me to do. Instead, Josh used biblical principles to bring hope into a very dark, bleak situation. We saw Josh on and off for approximately three years. It took a lot of work to have the marriage we do today, but it was worth every penny and every session we attended with Josh. Josh is a phenomenal counselor. It was easy to even talk about those embarrassing, tough topics with him. God really used The Relationship Center[MyCounselor.Online] to restore our marriage. Anything is possible when you’re willing to get help, implement what you’re being taught, and add Christ as the third party in your relationship. Instead of being a single Mom to three kids, I now have the marriage I only thought existed if I was with someone else. It really is unbelievable.
I would like to thank Josh for his help in building a strong biblical foundation in our marriage. It is normal to experience situations that cause difficulties in your marriage, but having the courage to step out and ask for help from a faith centered therapist such as Josh can help ensure that God’s plan for your marriage is revealed. Josh Spurlock is a true man of faith that honestly cares about your marriage and is committed to taking a biblical approach to therapy in an effort to equip you with the tools that are essential for continued success and years of mutual understanding and happiness.
Absolutely TOP NOTCH! These guys are the best of the best. SO good at what they do and being able to hear what you are not saying. They don’t want to keep you sick in an effort to collect money. Their hearts are truly at the center of Jesus and healing. It’s changed my life. I’ve gone for 5 or more years and I’m still there. Best money and decision I’ve ever made in an effort to change my life and relationships. I’m so grateful for the investment Rebecca and Shaun have made in my life and the confidence and encouragement the two of them have given me. Both are equally special! Exactly what I needed for my process.
Investing in christian counseling made all the difference for us. We had come to a point in our marriage where we were not communicating with one another. We had kids, careers, schedules and routines, and felt we were functioning well enough. What we didn’t have was a connection to one another. We each approached situations from our own perspective never taking time to realize how that impacted the other, or how we had come to have that perspective in the first place. The counseling process allowed us to reconnect with ourselves and to one another and provided tools for us to use when we weren’t with our counselor. We consider it one of the best investments of time and finances we have ever made! We would recommend the counseling process and our counselor Rachelle Colegrove without hesitation.
I have been going to Melissa for a little over a year now and I can honestly say it is one of the highlights of my week every week. I feel that she has helped me through so much already and is extremely easy to talk to about anything. I really appreciate her listening and offering me wisdom every time I see her. I don’t know how I would’ve managed getting through this past year of my life at times if I had started going to The Relationship Center [MyCounselor.Online]. Also, I am so grateful that they worked with me financially to find something that fits my tight, college budget. I definitely tell everyone about this place when they ask me about where to go for counseling. Thank you so much.
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