More Women Say They’re Addicted to Porn

Shaun Lotter, MA, LPC

female-porn-addiction-testA survey by Today’s Christian Women found one in six women says she struggles with a pornography addiction.

by Joanna Small, KSPR News Reporter and Photographer10:07 p.m. CST, November 29, 2012

SPRINGFIELD, Mo. — More women are addicted to pornography, and experts are blaming the internet.  They say it’s leveled the playing field — so to speak — between the sexes.

There is still a certain amount of shame associated with women watching pornography.  That’s why psychologists and researchers believe for women the easy, anonymous access to porn via the internet is such an appealing alternative to going out and buying it.  Unfortunately they also say some women are abusing that in alarmingly high numbers.

Video: Counselor says problem is harder to discuss for women than men.

Most of the time Angela’s computer activities are pretty mundane.  A little Facebook, a little email, but every so often when the mood strikes her she does something some people call dirty.

“I’ll watch porn.”

Never more than a few times a week, some times not for weeks at a time.  But Angela is part of a growing demographic.  You might think almost all people watching porn on the internet are men.  Think again; while 70 percent are, a new study says 30 percent of people looking at porn online are women.

That equates to nearly 9.5 million women a month, which is not a problem in and of itself, depending on your beliefs.  What experts say is a problem is how many are addicted.

“I think it’s much harder for women to talk about,” said sex addiction counselor Shaun Lotter.

He knows it’s out there, though.  In a survey by Today’s Christian Woman one in six women said she struggles with addiction to pornography, particularly online pornography.

“It’s free, it’s anonymous and you can have it whenever you want.  The only difference you see with women is it’s less than just body parts, it’s more about relationships,” said Lotter.

Angela can relate to that.

“I like it to be realistic.  I want there to be an intimate connection.  I don’t need a story; I just want it to be people legitimately having a good time when they’re doing it.”

She readily admits she has a good time when she’s watching it.  She also knows when to stop watching.

“Most of the time I don’t watch porn,” Angela said.

Lotter tells us usually a sexual addiction or an addiction to porn is not a person’s sole issue.  He says someone suffering from that kind of addiction almost always has others or has difficulty with intimacy because of some kind of abandonment in the past.

He also says there are a handful of warning signs that watching pornography has turned from just a behavior into an addictive behavior.  He says if your habit interferes with your relationships, if you continue to “up your tolerance” for what you find acceptable, and if you know it’s destructive but you do it anyway there’s a good chance you’re an addict.

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