Discovery vs. Integrity in Sex: Secular Humanism vs. Biblical Truth

Shaun Lotter, MA, LPC

download (6)We live in an age of self-discovery and self-actualization.  It’s a tenant of Secular Humanism.  The great quest is to delve into “who I am” and learning to embrace whatever one might find.  Humanistic psychology has championed this approach, and pushes individuals to see the goal of life as fully exploring these various facets of the human experience as a means of life at its fullest.  If this approach is applied to sexuality, the issue is no longer one of integrity, but of discovery.  Any desire, thought, or action should be embraced and greater truth will be found.  It may surprise many, but Paul speaks of this way of thinking in Romans 1:18-25.

18The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities–his eternal power and divine nature–have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.

21For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.

24Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another.25They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator–who is forever praised. Amen.

Paul understood this way of thinking, by way of God’s revelation, is humanity’s corrupted pursuit of a god, which is idolatry.  As people in a modern society, we might scoff at the idea of 88308565serving an idol, but as in the case of many things, idols have evolved over time.  The modern idol is not a statue or image, but one’s self.  God is created by accepting what appeals to the individual.  In a sense, the person can move down a buffet line of ideas and thoughts, selecting the amount of each that seems right to them.  The plate is gradually filled and steadily transforms into a mirror, providing a reflection of the individual holding it.  Although, in the case of idolatry, whether an image, statue, or mindset, it has always been man’s worship of himself.  Self-exploration is a good thing, and a part of the work we do at The Relationship Center.  As believers, however, we seek to also to know who God is, as our guide and template.  As we discover the ways in which we are not like God, we surrender to His transformational work, allowing Him to mold us into his image.

Let’s apply this concept to sexuality.  If, for instance, a man is drawn to look at pornography and struggles to reconcile this behavior with his faith, he has a choice.  One of his options is to re-examine his beliefs about sexual behavior and change these.  He might reform his belief system so that looking at porn in no longer a problem, but simply an expression of his sexuality.  In regards to his faith, he begins to ignore or reinterpret aspects of scripture which contradict his new found thinking.  While he does not realize it, he is creating an idol.  God’s word about Himself is no longer held as truth, instead, this man defines who God is.  More specifically, he begins to bow at the altar of sex, serving, according to Paul, a created thing rather than the Creator, God.  What if, instead, the man knew what the Bible, the inspired Word of God, said about the created thing, sex.  The man, with God’s grace and help, transforms this area of himself to conform to the image of God.  In this instance, he bows before God.  Sexuality becomes an area which God is able to bless.

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